I love my boyfriend but Im Depressed Options

[IrishSweetie]

Hello,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months but we have known each other for 5 years this summer. We have had some hard times earlier in our relationship but we have worked everything out and everthing is good now. I love him Sooo much he has helped me through a lot of rough times I have had in my life (eg. Cutting). But for the last 2 months or so I have been feeling really depressed, I took a depression test on the internet and when the results got sent to me it said i have severe depression. When ever im over at his house its not like im bored or anything but I sit there and cry all the time, he asks me whats wrong but I say nothing I just was thinking about a bad scary dream I had (i usually get ones of me cutting). I told him I took the test and told him I have severe depression and has been there are me but I just feel depressed still...i still love him but could our relationship be going downhill?? Is there anyway I can spark things up again??? PLEASE HELP!!

Thanks in advance for anyone who can help out!

P.S- I hope I explaind this good enough I wasnt to sure how you put everything.

[sem]

Hello IrishSweetie and I'm glad you joined the forum.

I hope you start feeling better a little through reading these posts. I have only been here a short while and it has helped me. Nice to know that there are others out there feeling the same way and are taking the time to say a few nice words, it really helps. I hope you find the right medication for you as well!

I hope sharing those feelings helped a little for you. If you feel that lonely again, come on to the forum and were here for you. The more you post and the more we reply, you'll soon will be feeling better about things. That comes from experience with my own self. I come here all the time now and it's hard for me to be completely sad when I'm posting or helping someone.

Again, welcome to the forum. Looking to hear more from you.

[General_Joy]

Hi and welcome... If your boyfriend loves you as much as you love him (which I'm sure he does), he will be there for you no matter what. People suffering from depression can still have rewarding relationships. So as long as you're honest and can communicate with your boyfriend, your relationship does not have to go downhill. If you're severely depressed, that's something you should get help with, and I'm sure your boyfriend will be understanding as you're going through that process. Good luck, and I hope you'll come back to the forum to update us

[Anne]

IrishSweetie - welcome to our forum

hope you been doing OK and hope to hear from you soon.
Anne

[IrishSweetie]

Thanks to everyone who has replied. I know he loves me as much as i love him, when im upset and crying he always wants to be the one to hold me and wipe my tears away and i think thats amazing. I llike to listen to music a lot to make me feel happy when im depressed, most of the songs i listen to are mine and my boyfriends songs (here by me by three doors down, Far away by nickelback, Lips of an angel by Hinder) Thoes are only a few and they make me feel a bit better.

Last night i cried myself to sleep sometimes i will be just sitting in my room laying in my bed just trying to fall asleep and then in 2 seconds ill have tears running down my cheeks. I read the package for my birth control pills im on and it said one of the side effects are Depression so im kinda thinking that im depressed from that (i have only been on it for about 2 months going to be starting my new pack next tuesday) so if it dosnt go away soon after my 3rd pack then i will probably go into my doctor and talk to her about whats going on.

If anyone can help me with anything else or give me anymore advice please write back
Thanks in advance again

-IrishSweetie

[Joost]

Hello IrishSweetie,

First of all welcome to the depression forums. I think you are perfectly OK. You know the birth control pills are hormone stimulaters and thus they also affect the mood hormones in our body. Thst why the symptom of depression is mentioned on the pill. I will suggest you that if the symptoms persists after 3-4 months of taking the pill, talk to your doctor and he/she may suggest you some alternate pill with less side effects and which suits you better.

Hope to see you around.

[IrishSweetie]

hey,

ive been on birth control pills for about 8-9 months now i was on allesse before but i switched because they just wernt working for me i had contiues spotting so my doctor put me on yasmin now thats the brand thats making me depressed they work much better for me though so i think it might just go away with in the next cycle or so.

I cried myself to sleep again last night i dont know why i just have to cry constantly i feel like im pissing myself off and im really starting to get tired of if. To add on top of that yesterday i was cleaning my room and when i was cleaning my desk i found a razor blade in an old book that i was reading (i used to hide my blades and other sharp objects in the book) i was scared to death i was so mad at myself last night i wanted to cut! but my boyfriend would be so disapointed in me an he would be really mad because i was doing sooo good with not doing it (ive been good for about5 months now and it feels so good) but i dont even know how to explain whats going through my mind right now and im kinda worried just to talk to my boyfriernd about what im feeling. But i dont want him to be really worried about me

Can anyone help?

thanks
-IrishSweetie

[IrishSweetie]

I thought i would add this reply over again can someone please read this and give me some advice???PLEASE?


hey,

ive been on birth control pills for about 8-9 months now i was on allesse before but i switched because they just wernt working for me i had contiues spotting so my doctor put me on yasmin now thats the brand thats making me depressed they work much better for me though so i think it might just go away with in the next cycle or so.

I cried myself to sleep again last night i dont know why i just have to cry constantly i feel like im pissing myself off and im really starting to get tired of if. To add on top of that yesterday i was cleaning my room and when i was cleaning my desk i found a razor blade in an old book that i was reading (i used to hide my blades and other sharp objects in the book) i was scared to death i was so mad at myself last night i wanted to cut! but my boyfriend would be so disapointed in me an he would be really mad because i was doing sooo good with not doing it (ive been good for about5 months now and it feels so good) but i dont even know how to explain whats going through my mind right now and im kinda worried just to talk to my boyfriernd about what im feeling. But i dont want him to be really worried about me

Can anyone help?

thanks
-IrishSweetie

[Eagle]

[quote name='IrishSweetie' post='2122' date='Sep 12 2006, 04:28 AM']
I thought i would add this reply over again can someone please read this and give me some advice???PLEASE?
hey,

ive been on birth control pills for about 8-9 months now i was on allesse before but i switched because they just wernt working for me i had contiues spotting so my doctor put me on yasmin now thats the brand thats making me depressed they work much better for me though so i think it might just go away with in the next cycle or so.

I cried myself to sleep again last night i dont know why i just have to cry constantly i feel like im pissing myself off and im really starting to get tired of if. To add on top of that yesterday i was cleaning my room and when i was cleaning my desk i found a razor blade in an old book that i was reading (i used to hide my blades and other sharp objects in the book) i was scared to death i was so mad at myself last night i wanted to cut! but my boyfriend would be so disapointed in me an he would be really mad because i was doing sooo good with not doing it (ive been good for about5 months now and it feels so good) but i dont even know how to explain whats going through my mind right now and im kinda worried just to talk to my boyfriernd about what im feeling. But i dont want him to be really worried about me

Can anyone help?

IrishSweetie,

I really think you need to go back to your doctor and tell how you feel, you may need a different method of birth control like the coil, that way you are not putting chemicals in your body or you may need some anti-depressant medication. The problem will not fix itself without some help, you need to be brave and talk to somebody, you will feel better for sharing the problem.

Eagle

[depressed_wife]

Hi sweetie most birth control pills contain a different amount of hormone which may be the cause of what is happening with you and you may need to change the one you are on as it may be to much for you. There is numerous different kinds of pill that is available you just have to find the one that matches your bodies chemisty. I would also like to say like any type of IUD like the coil I would avoid as it has been known to cause more problems then a woman needs, like infections and it may even come loose and end up in your uterous. So go back to your doctor and discuss how your body is reacting to this pill and ask him to help you find one that is better for you. I hope this helps you and would like to hear how it all works out for you.

your forum sister DW

[shadow2]

You need to go see your doc right away, he seems to be a good support for u and loves u, so take him with u. I did and now after listening to my doc explain to him what is going on with me he better understands. Talk to him don't shut him out. Sometimes it becomes too much so ask him to tell u if what u r saying is upseting him. Try if there is something about ur relationship that is bothering u not to start ur sentences with YOU...try i feel instead..so he doesn't blame himself...remember he is living this as well...get some reading material to help u understand what is going on and share with him..

[mary]

Hi. My name is Mary and I am going through almost the very same thing as IrishSweatie. I have been dating my boyfriend for just a little over a year and I have been diagnosed with clinical depression. It is moderate however i have been really struggling these past few months. I am seeing a therapist who i just started going to and i am trying to work out some things there, however it does not feel like enough. I have been quite difficult to deal with lately although my boyfriend has been trying his best to be supportive. Am I putting too much weight on his shoulders? I am afraid that it will be a while before i get better, and this will slowly get too much for him to handle. Is the only way left to go down? I love him and i don't want anything to jepordise our relationship, but will this slowly tear us apart?

I also have noticed over the past couple weeks and facination, and eagerness to drink. I know I am drinking for all the wrong reasons, although that is all i ever seem to think about, as that is the closest to happy i have been in months. Is there anyway i can avoid feeling this way? I know it is wrong but what should I do?

Also, When i was reading IrishSweatie's posts, i noticed that she said she started Yasmin (the pill), and it made her depressed. I switched to Yasmin just a little over two months ago, and i am wondering if i should talk to my doctor about that? Can it actually trigger or worsen depression?

If anyone can provide any feedback it would be greatly appriciated.
Thanks, Mary

[mary]

I thought I would repost this. Can someone please reply.??

Hi. My name is Mary and I am going through almost the very same thing as IrishSweatie. I have been dating my boyfriend for just a little over a year and I have been diagnosed with clinical depression. It is moderate however i have been really struggling these past few months. I am seeing a therapist who i just started going to and i am trying to work out some things there, however it does not feel like enough. I have been quite difficult to deal with lately although my boyfriend has been trying his best to be supportive. Am I putting too much weight on his shoulders? I am afraid that it will be a while before i get better, and this will slowly get too much for him to handle. Is the only way left to go down? I love him and i don't want anything to jepordise our relationship, but will this slowly tear us apart?

I also have noticed over the past couple weeks and facination, and eagerness to drink. I know I am drinking for all the wrong reasons, although that is all i ever seem to think about, as that is the closest to happy i have been in months. Is there anyway i can avoid feeling this way? I know it is wrong but what should I do?

Also, When i was reading IrishSweatie's posts, i noticed that she said she started Yasmin (the pill), and it made her depressed. I switched to Yasmin just a little over two months ago, and i am wondering if i should talk to my doctor about that? Can it actually trigger or worsen depression?

If anyone can provide any feedback it would be greatly appriciated.
Thanks, Mary

[replystreet]

Just let your boyfriend know your situation. Also tell him why you are depressed. He might could help or even try to make you feel better. Don't just be depressed and isolate yourself from him that will make the situation worse for both of you and he will think that he has done something wrong. Tell him so that you can get better. It will be best for you two. Good Luck