Want to cry but can't Options

[Guest_Fred_*]

Does anyone else feel like crying, but can't. It's weird that I can't seem to cry anymore. Crying would help me feel better and relieve some of the pain. Now it seems that because I can't cry it builds up all this tention. It sucks because then when I go to my doctor or therapist I can't stop crying. Just wondering if anyone else feels this way. My husband thinks the depression is all better then because I don't cry. It makes me think that too. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

[majordepressedgu...]

From what I learned, it is not have accepted the past enough to move on and live on. I look at it like not wanting to really think about Post-Traumatic events that has happened, I don't want to accepthem as part of my life cause it's to painful to think about it. There is a partial release of pain when we are able to shed some tears and it can be helpful to the recovery process. It's normal to have that reaction with your therapist because of the content of your conversation. Crying only shows that you are a caring person. When people look at you and cast judgement on your well being, they are only guessing by looking. Like my saying goes" It's amazing what can be hidden behind a smile". When going to your sessions, bring this up and tell them you want to learn the techniques for controlling your release of these events along with feelings. I still have problems like that now and then but it gets better after I learned to have more control of it. Best wishes,
MajorGuy~

[SocalDNM]

we will never be safe from our emotions.our emotions and health will be with us forever.the thing is,everybody gets sad,mad,scared,worried,cold,hot Etc.normal people with good mental/emotional health,only have these emotions for a short while.somebody whos depressed,has these feelings for hours,days,weeks,months and years.thats a major problem.if you have these feelings all the time then thats a major problem.your goal is to be able to do anything you want.have freedom.be happy every single day.if you arent like this then your depression hasnt left.just because you arent crying that doesnt mean its gone.

when poeple get emotional,theres a real reason for it.depressed people get emotional for these things too.but depressed people get emotional also for things that arent real or true either.its over-emotion.i think of the trhings i used to enjoy or how i felt free and could do anything i wanted.i still want that,but i cant now.i will not be depressed anymore if i can do that again.if you cant do this then you are still depressed.you want to strive for happiness,freedom,peace and love.when you have all that you will be fine.theres reasons why you feel bad.somethings missing.find out what that is,find out whats bothering you and why.try to figure it out and try to figure out how to fix that.its hard but dont be scared.int he end the rewards are great.just think of the rewards and that will motivate you.all the embarrasment and suffering is worth it to get to your goal.its all worth it.you have to learn and and you need help and support from others.Have a Great Day (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)

[Guest_Fred_*]

Thanks so much for the response. Your responses made so much sense. I think you guys are so right. I know I just need to talk about my past even though it is so hard to do. I'm hoping to be able to finally talk about it on thursday w/ my therapist.

Thanks!

[SocalDNM]

i wanna tell you something.pretty soon im gonna start seeing a therapist and doctor and all that.i wanna tell you,to be completely honest.theres no reason to hide it.if you hide it,then the problem wont go away.if you are out front with it then you will be able to work on that problem.you must let them know.and believe me dont be embarrased.every mental health professional had heard it all.you think your problems are bad?they have heard worse.theres nothing a doctor or therapist hasnt heard.think of all the other people who have told them things.thats why depression is a known illness.thats why theres treatment.depression is not new.if you look at all these self tests and the questions they ask,its like every question is describing you.depression has been around for a long time.even way before you were ever born.so dont be afraid to tell your exact problems,worries,fears etc

the more honest you are with yourself and them,the more faster and closer you are to good health and freedom.i know its scary.im scared.but i wont know what to expect until i try it out.i mean no one knows what to expect out of anything until they try it.i have no way to deal with an illness like this cause i never experienced it before.so i have no way of fighting it off.but having better thought patterns is a good start.having a goodview on it is good.the only ones that can help you with this is a mental health professional or someone whos had depression before.in life,if you wanan find out about anything its best to get advice from someone who has experience with it.i keep telling myself when i see a doctor im gonna tell him everything.im gonna make sure i put out all my problems,fears,worries,guilts.i want them to help those things.i dont wanna suffer from a problem anymore.why would you wanna hide something about you and carry it with you forever?thats why i say to tell them.if you can admit it to them and yourself then you can work on that problem.if you dont then no one will know its there but you and you will continue to have that problem.well,have a nice day (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

[raceylace]

i understand completely when you say because you dont cry your husband thinks you must be better, this is the problem with suffering from depression, if it was a physical illness i.e you broke your leg and it was in a cast you recieve sympathy, but because no one can see depression, people find it difficult to understand, it is one of those things if you are smiling or not crying you must be ok, people who dont quite understand have the idea that people suffering from depression must be in full floods of tears all the time, its a missconception dont get me wrong there are those suffering who do , but not everyone, i hope things improve for you, i get where you are comming from i really do X

[tcirodriguez]

Does anyone else feel like crying, but can't. It's weird that I can't seem to cry anymore. Crying would help me feel better and relieve some of the pain. Now it seems that because I can't cry it builds up all this tention. It sucks because then when I go to my doctor or therapist I can't stop crying. Just wondering if anyone else feels this way. My husband thinks the depression is all better then because I don't cry. It makes me think that too. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

Hi, I am new to all of this but I know exactly what you feel. I have tried to cry now for almost 2 months and all that I get is a film over my eyes and they burn. It is an awful feeling

[MajorGuy]

Hello tcirodriguez, welcome to our forum.

Crying is just like releasing the bitterness from inside and making room for healing thoughts. If I cry about something I usually tell etheir my therapist or this forum just to share the hidden emotions with someone trusting of me and it feels better after doing so.

Loooking forward to hearing more from you..

Best wishes,

MajorGuy~

[Joost]

Hi tcirodriguez,

welcome to our support forum.

There have been times when I have deliberately tried to take my life... I think I must have been crying for some attention.


Joost

[d-gADMIN]

Heavy hearts, like heavy clouds in the sky, are best relieved by the letting of a little water.

[sem]

I love walking in the rain, 'cause then no-one knows I'm crying.

[Anne]

You may forget the one with whom you have laughed, but never the one with whom you have wept.

What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry?

[bonniegeen]

Fred, I heard this the other day, and had read it before. It really hits a cord for me and helps me to under- stand the difference between a healing cry and a pity cry. I try to "cry with an agenda" if I find myself in the midst of a crying jag. I'm having a 'not able to cry day' today. So down, sad, defeated, low, sorrowful.... but no tears. It hurts more than the crying days. Tomorrow will be better?
All my best to you in your journey.

Yesterday I Cried

I came home, went straight to my room,
sat on the edge of my bed,
kicked off my shoes,
unhooked my bra,
and I had myself a good cry.
I'm telling you,
I cried until my nose was running all over
the silk blouse I got on sale.
I cried until my ears were hot.
I cried until my head was hurting so bad that I could hardly see the pile of soiled tissues lying on the floor at my feet.

I want you to understand,
I had myself a really good cry yesterday.

Yesterday, I cried,
for all the days that I was too busy,
or too tired,
or too mad to cry.

I cried for all the days, and all the ways,
and all the times I had dishonored,
disrespected, and
disconnected my Self from myself,
only to have it reflected back to me in the ways others did to me the same things I had already done to myself.

I cried for all the things I had given,
only to have them stolen;
for all the things I had asked for that had yet to show up;
for all the things I had accomplished, only to give them away,
to people in circumstances, which left me feeling empty, and battered and plain old used.

I cried because there really does come a time when the only thing left for you to do is cry.

Yesterday, I cried.
I cried because little boys get
left by their daddies;
and little girls get forgotten by their mommies;
and daddies don't know what to do, so they leave;
and mommies get left, so they get mad.

I cried because I had a little boy,
and because I was a little girl,
and because I was a mommy
who didn't know what to do,
and because I wanted my daddy to be there for me so badly until I ached.

Yesterday, I cried.
I cried because I hurt.
I cried because I was hurt.
I cried because hurt has no place to go
except deeper into the pain that caused it in the first place,
and when it gets there, the hurt wakes you up.

I cried because it was too late.
I cried because it was time.
I cried because my soul knew that I didn't know that my soul knew everything I needed to know.

I cried a soulful cry yesterday,
and it felt so good.
It felt so very, very bad.

In the midst of my crying,
I felt my freedom coming,
Because Yesterday,
I cried with an agenda.

(Iyanla Vanzant, from her book Yesterday I Cried:
Celebrating the Lessons of Living and Loving)

[sem]

nice poem bonniegeen.

[Helene]

My name is helene,48yrs. old. I can;t remember how it feels to cry. I walk twice a day, many miles, and i;m a gym junkie. I have a eating disorder, don,t eat much, am slim weight 90 lbs. ,5 ft. tall. any coments, or words of encouragement?

[Joost]

hello Helene

welcome to our family

So glad you found us here and hope you find lots of warmth, support and friendship within the Depression Guide family ....of which you are now a valued member.

Loooking forward to hearing more from you..
Joost

[MajorGuy]

Hello Helene and welcome to the forum. I'm 6'1 and 146 lbs. I too need to gain weight and the only way I am going to do this is too feel better about things, eat more of course but it's hard when depression strips me of my appetite. I've pleaded with my Psych, MD and Family doctor and they only seem to offer meds. that they say increases your appetite. With me, these didn't work. I guess I would say that if your in the same situation, we need to create more happiness inside and create more reputition when it comes to making ourselves eat our 3 important daily meals. It's good that you like the gym and are into exercise and I'm sure you realize that if you do not eat right and exercise, you take a chance in losing important Vitamin levels in your body as well as muscle mass. Crying can be good therapy at times as it releases the abundance of bad feelings inside and makes room for the healing process.

Hopefully we can both reach our goal in being healthier and happier.

Best wishes,

MajorGuy~

[Helene]

THANK You All, Helene. I have had a hard life,my friend david,is all that i have.He hase helped me alot.

[Joost]

I feel good about you Helena. You have such a nice friend.
You need not be thankful for this. I myself recover from my depression by helping you. So it is all mutual symbiotic relation.

[MajorGuy]

Hello Fred, hope you been doing and feeling better and hope to hear more from you soon,

MajorGuy~