How to Find Love that Lasts Longer?Tweet
There are rules to live in Society and rules to live in a relationship. In the same way there are rules to live in a love and hate relationship. It can quickly become a burden if we are not following the roles of companionship.
Below are some of the rules for Lasting Love
- Set foot on Real world and do not press idealism. If you breathe the words "The One" in the first couple of months, odds are that you're headed for trouble. Don't even let yourself think this way. You need to relax and keep your expectations as realistic as possible - knowing full well how hard that is to do.
- Well, this is my favourite. Don't jump into bed too quickly. For those of you who aren't waiting for marriage to consummate the relationship, don't get horizontal until you've had, at least, several dates. Trust me: this way you'll figure out how emotionally compatible you are before you let you sex and hormones take over.
- Your friends and family should not meet the person you're dating until a solid month of dating - and dating with no red flags. If you've been dating a few weeks but have noticed some areas of concern, take an extra month to get to know your new love interest better so that you can figure out if he or she will truly make the grade.
- Use what mental health professionals call "self-talk" or what everyone else calls "mantras" to keep your eye on the bigger picture when the burgeoning intimacy makes you anxious. Tell yourself little things to soothe yourself, such as - Focus on whether you like him, not whether he likes you.
Stop looking missing parts of you in Your Soul mate
This may sound counterintuitive, but it’s exactly how I met my husband. I stopped looking for “the one” after a two-year relationship ended, which I had believed was the one. I decided to turn my attention inward—to get to know and accept myself, to heal past wounds, and to explore and develop new parts of myself.
If you are attracted to particular qualities in someone else, find or develop those qualities in yourself.
Most of us express only a small part of who we are. We limit ourselves to the personality—or self—we have become in response to our childhood environment. This is an unavoidable stage in our developmental process because we have to form a self—or ego—that enables us to survive and hopefully thrive in our family and social setting.