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How to Choose the Best Romantic Partner?


Romantic Partner

Marry a man your own age; as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight. Picking the right person for the right reasons at the right time is an art form.

There are many ways in which we feel attracted to others - whether it is physical features, financial value, emotional persona, overall character, sudden hitch, etc. Any other person's attractiveness is a kind of magnet which pulls people toward one another. Physical attractiveness, specialy sexual one is one of the important aspect of people desires and hence they look for the partner.

There is one dimension which comes naturally to us. This is known as Romantic Instinct wherein our natural instincts guide us towards the person who is good to us and give us kindness and affection. What is Love - it is the feeling which comes when we are in company of a person who can touch us in emotional needs, understand our sadness and strengthen us for the hard tasks of our lives.

This journey of finding such partner is not easy and straightforward. It is something to do with our instincts and feelings rather than any clearcut path. Asking why someone has chosen someone in his/her life as a partner is like offending meaning of love.

Patterns and Thought process of finding love

Somewhere deep inside, when we are looking for love in our life, we are really seeking for familiarity. We are longing for re-creating the same feeling we knew so well in childhood - the feel of affection, tenderness, care, support, understading, etc, which we felt during our early years. Though it is not restricted always to good feelings or good morals, it can also look for traits which are otherwise negative - for example, being too right might not be attractive to some people since they had experienced both sides of morality and drew some connect with such behaviour. The subconcious mind is actually looking for familiarity with past whether it is good patterns or else patterns of frustration.

Factors affecting the life partner decision

Although meeting prospective romantic partner face to face while evaluating them is the most important, it could be more positive if the partners are physically attractive and has good-earning prospects. It is known as inferior-superior continuum in scientific jargon.

Suitability of the person we are looking towards as a partner depends on lot of characteristics such as follows:

- Romantic perspective
- Caring
- Sensitivity
- Kindness
- Generosity
- Reciprocity- Partner’s willingness for Flourishing mutually
- kind and intelligent
- good sense of humour

Few tips on Choosing the Right Romantic Partners

  1. Do not choose out of fear - don't let your fear surpass the romantic and practical reasoning.
  2. Do not start with your checklist and go through each and every item. There are many facets of people and one should leave things on instincts as well before concluding anything concerete. Being adamant to partner trait checklists can sometimes lead to rejecting many good partners.
  3. Throw the tiny details out and concentrate on core human qualities like empathy, integrity, honesty, reliability, kindness, etc. Finance and stability can also be checked for stable future life.

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