Relationship and Depression

Relations and the people around us tend to impact our lives in the ways, more than you can even think of. The relation we share with our nearest and dearest, can effect the way our thinking and our lives moves.

A good relationship, where those involved, accept one another as they are and are supportive when required, can help prevent depression. A bad relationship, on the other hand, can cause it.

People whose hopes, aspiration and expectations in relationship are constantly unfulfilled are greatly at risk. Relationships in which one person is far more dominant than the other, and leads their partner to believe he or she must behave in a certain way, can be very damaging.

This may in turn lead to complicated relationship depression. The person which is dominant can cause the other person feel worse and deprssed.

In a perfect relationship each person starts as he or she means to go on, truthfully. In vast majority of relationships, we start with untruths and care on like that. If you are keen on someone, you may hide those aspects of yourself which you may think might put him or her off - you are on your best behaviour.

However the other person tends to assume that this is the real you, and expects the behaviour to continue. In some, however, one person is afraid to reveal their true self, or the other person refuses to accept it, and life becomes a lie. This is the breeding ground for depression in relationship.

Very often depressed person are told by loved ones, 'I only want what's best for you, stand up for yourself.' The trouble is that what they really mean is 'Stand up for yourself with other people but not with me.' Close relatives can be very resistant to changes in those they have taken for granted.

Generally, it would seem that relationships difficulties of various kinds contribute to the development of depressive illness. We all need to be far more aware of what we expect of one another and of what we ought to expect. A healthy relationship is supportive but allows each partner to be the person they want to be and accepts them as such.

Hence the bottomline is expect the other person in any relation as he or she is. Be supportive and the let the other person be what he or she wants to be.